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brightbluegirlOh, the things I'm going to get to do next year.
In January, we'll have a little bit of extra money for fun, again, in the budget. I'm going to go to Fabricland, and not only finally settle on a pattern for my dress (and his jacket), but also get fabric for:
1) curtains for the living room and bedroom (white just won't do!)
2) a nice futon cover for the living room couch (one that is pretty and *gasp* FITS)
3) pillows for the couch (we saw some nice ones at Sears, that were so soft, and jewel purple or jewel blue, with pretty dangly things on the edges... but even on sale they were $20..., so I'd rather just make them)
I'm going to start with those. Nothing in that list is difficult, hell, nothing there is hard at ALL. But it will get me used to my new sewing machine. Then I want to start quilting - again, just something small... maybe I'll start by experimenting with a pillow, and perhaps some place mats. I won't be able to do a lot, though, since I'll have to concentrate on our clothes for the ceremony.
I'm really looking forward to being able to create in this new (to me) medium. Wearing clothes that I've made is going to feel really good.
Eventually, as in, for the birth of our child, I want to get natural cotton, and dyes, and dye all my own fabrics, and then make a birth quilt for the child.
To do that, of course, I need to know how to dye fabric, and how to quilt. But I've got at least 5 years to learn all that.
I'm also really looking forward to making the invitations to the ceremony. I may not be looking forward to the hellishness of the ceremony itself - getting everything ready, having everyone there, and etc - but the invitations are going to be hella fun. I want to make them now, go out and buy the paper and the note cards and everything, but it doesn't make sense to make the invitations when we don't even have a venue yet. Venue first. Invitations second.
Although we COULD make the invitations, and just write in them after we find the venue...
Speaking of venues, Andrew's Aunt and Uncle came up with a place in White Rock (not too far from us) that may be perfect for what we're looking for. It's a Heritage Hall, so it's small, and quaint, and cozy. They're going to get their son to take some pictures, and they'll email them to us. I look forward to seeing them.
Speaking of the ceremony, even though Andrew's family keeps saying things like "we know you're alternative" and etc, they still seem far more accepting and supportive of our choices than my mother is. My mother, who has said things like "I want you to get a marriage certificate, because I think it's best", and other closed, closed things.
It's because of my MOTHER that I am having this stress, not because of his extended family.
I feel like screaming about this whole thing. Screaming and screaming and screaming and shouting "Keep out!!! Stay AWAY!!!! Do not try to run my ceremony of commitment!! DO NOT SULLY THIS"
But of course, no one deserves that outburst.
I'm rethinking a lot of things, though. We had thought the idea of rings was very good for us, we discussed tattoos and piercings and necklaces and other things, and thought that rings would be nice outward symbols. Now I'm not so sure that we need outward symbols at all.
Well, to be specific, we do NOT *need* outward symbols, but we'd like some. It's a very good chance that I'm thinking of getting rid of the whole ring idea because I'm feeling particularly cheap and miserly at the moment.
It's hard to tell what's "right", when I second-guess everything. I'm not even sure the CONCEPT of "right" is... well... right.
I'm looking forward to visiting with Andrew's family, because I'd like very much to discuss with them what we're thinking of. I'd like to check with Andrew's mom just what she meant when she said she'd be willing to take care of the food. (I've decided, I really do want an entirely vegan meal). I also need to remember that both my parents have said they'll help monetarily, which should calm my money worries. If we can get away with paying only for the clothing fabric, rings, and invitations, I'll be thrilled. (I don't want anyone else's money to go towards our rings)
This doesn't have to be a big deal. It's a simple, small ceremony, with a party. That's all it is. No fancy expensive white dress, no church crap, no 4 course meal with servers, no dj.
Ah, the rambling I do when I'm bored at work...
In January, we'll have a little bit of extra money for fun, again, in the budget. I'm going to go to Fabricland, and not only finally settle on a pattern for my dress (and his jacket), but also get fabric for:
1) curtains for the living room and bedroom (white just won't do!)
2) a nice futon cover for the living room couch (one that is pretty and *gasp* FITS)
3) pillows for the couch (we saw some nice ones at Sears, that were so soft, and jewel purple or jewel blue, with pretty dangly things on the edges... but even on sale they were $20..., so I'd rather just make them)
I'm going to start with those. Nothing in that list is difficult, hell, nothing there is hard at ALL. But it will get me used to my new sewing machine. Then I want to start quilting - again, just something small... maybe I'll start by experimenting with a pillow, and perhaps some place mats. I won't be able to do a lot, though, since I'll have to concentrate on our clothes for the ceremony.
I'm really looking forward to being able to create in this new (to me) medium. Wearing clothes that I've made is going to feel really good.
Eventually, as in, for the birth of our child, I want to get natural cotton, and dyes, and dye all my own fabrics, and then make a birth quilt for the child.
To do that, of course, I need to know how to dye fabric, and how to quilt. But I've got at least 5 years to learn all that.
I'm also really looking forward to making the invitations to the ceremony. I may not be looking forward to the hellishness of the ceremony itself - getting everything ready, having everyone there, and etc - but the invitations are going to be hella fun. I want to make them now, go out and buy the paper and the note cards and everything, but it doesn't make sense to make the invitations when we don't even have a venue yet. Venue first. Invitations second.
Although we COULD make the invitations, and just write in them after we find the venue...
Speaking of venues, Andrew's Aunt and Uncle came up with a place in White Rock (not too far from us) that may be perfect for what we're looking for. It's a Heritage Hall, so it's small, and quaint, and cozy. They're going to get their son to take some pictures, and they'll email them to us. I look forward to seeing them.
Speaking of the ceremony, even though Andrew's family keeps saying things like "we know you're alternative" and etc, they still seem far more accepting and supportive of our choices than my mother is. My mother, who has said things like "I want you to get a marriage certificate, because I think it's best", and other closed, closed things.
It's because of my MOTHER that I am having this stress, not because of his extended family.
I feel like screaming about this whole thing. Screaming and screaming and screaming and shouting "Keep out!!! Stay AWAY!!!! Do not try to run my ceremony of commitment!! DO NOT SULLY THIS"
But of course, no one deserves that outburst.
I'm rethinking a lot of things, though. We had thought the idea of rings was very good for us, we discussed tattoos and piercings and necklaces and other things, and thought that rings would be nice outward symbols. Now I'm not so sure that we need outward symbols at all.
Well, to be specific, we do NOT *need* outward symbols, but we'd like some. It's a very good chance that I'm thinking of getting rid of the whole ring idea because I'm feeling particularly cheap and miserly at the moment.
It's hard to tell what's "right", when I second-guess everything. I'm not even sure the CONCEPT of "right" is... well... right.
I'm looking forward to visiting with Andrew's family, because I'd like very much to discuss with them what we're thinking of. I'd like to check with Andrew's mom just what she meant when she said she'd be willing to take care of the food. (I've decided, I really do want an entirely vegan meal). I also need to remember that both my parents have said they'll help monetarily, which should calm my money worries. If we can get away with paying only for the clothing fabric, rings, and invitations, I'll be thrilled. (I don't want anyone else's money to go towards our rings)
This doesn't have to be a big deal. It's a simple, small ceremony, with a party. That's all it is. No fancy expensive white dress, no church crap, no 4 course meal with servers, no dj.
Ah, the rambling I do when I'm bored at work...
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Date: 2003-12-29 02:09 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-12-29 02:19 pm (UTC)It's nice to have you in my orbit again.
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Date: 2003-12-29 02:24 pm (UTC)Phreeduh tells me you're contemplating the marriage bed. Congradulations. The sky is open to you.
Hey, if you want to get in touch any other way, my current email is panaceam@canada.com, or ICQ# 324607214. I'd love to hear at length what's going on in BC.
talk soon.
l-ov-E
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curtains
Date: 2003-12-29 08:39 pm (UTC)so i got sheer purple curtains. and synskin - fiberglas fabric that looks like rice paper. and a yellow burlap look (but it's not harsh feeling like burlap but softer like foam i guess?) and now i'm going to have a 3 layer curtain going on. and i'm going to weave copper wire through the burlap to tie the layers together. and i think i'm going to consider cutting some of the yellow to let the fiberglas show through - like shoji screen style.
Re: curtains
Date: 2003-12-29 08:41 pm (UTC)