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brightbluegirlI'm struggling.
I know that having plans and goals are good. Budgetting is good. Setting my sights on when we'll be debt free (in 2 years) is good. Figuring out what all we want to do before we have children is good.
But I don't know how to let go, after that. I don't know how to live in the moment, enjoy today for what it is, and forget about the future. I don't know how to concentrate on today, not just for how today will help tomorrow, but for today itself.
Andrew is really good at it. My zen man.
I've never been very good at relaxing. I was raised in a frantic household. I don't know how to spend 3 hours lounging in bed. I don't know how to do nothing and enjoy it. When I've been sitting and relaxing, I jump up and start to tidy, or make lists of things I "have to do".
Andrew is really good at relaxing. Nothing is important, thinks he, but our love, getting to work on time, and sometimes other less important things.
I would like to be like that.
Of course, there's the other side of it. I'm goal-oriented. That means that I accomplish things. I've already accomplished a lot, in my 29 years. I set goals for myself, constant improvements, and I'm proud of that. I like improving, and growing, and so on.
So the importance is finding the balance. I think we balance each other out, in that respect, and I'd like to find a way to have that balance alone, too.
Ah, the struggle.
I know that having plans and goals are good. Budgetting is good. Setting my sights on when we'll be debt free (in 2 years) is good. Figuring out what all we want to do before we have children is good.
But I don't know how to let go, after that. I don't know how to live in the moment, enjoy today for what it is, and forget about the future. I don't know how to concentrate on today, not just for how today will help tomorrow, but for today itself.
Andrew is really good at it. My zen man.
I've never been very good at relaxing. I was raised in a frantic household. I don't know how to spend 3 hours lounging in bed. I don't know how to do nothing and enjoy it. When I've been sitting and relaxing, I jump up and start to tidy, or make lists of things I "have to do".
Andrew is really good at relaxing. Nothing is important, thinks he, but our love, getting to work on time, and sometimes other less important things.
I would like to be like that.
Of course, there's the other side of it. I'm goal-oriented. That means that I accomplish things. I've already accomplished a lot, in my 29 years. I set goals for myself, constant improvements, and I'm proud of that. I like improving, and growing, and so on.
So the importance is finding the balance. I think we balance each other out, in that respect, and I'd like to find a way to have that balance alone, too.
Ah, the struggle.
