notes from boredom

[brightbluegirl]

What a quiet lj day it's been...

In other news, I have a shiny new blue notebook for my class that starts tonight. Woohoo!

I also have a pastry brush. The two are not to be used together.

My triceps really hurt from working out yesterday.

I spoke to my mother yesterday, and actually broached the idea of her taking some therapy. It didn't go over well, even though I was gentle, and said several times that healthy people go for therapy, and that I'm suggesting it because she's been through so much crisis this year, and not suggesting that she's unhealthy or anything.

Although she was very much against it, who knows... maybe she'll think some more on it. I don't know.

I DID get recipes from her... some family recipes I've really wanted for the last while, pickled beets and sweet cucumber pickle. I'm very happy about that. I'm going to make a bunch of them for Christmas gifts, primarily to my family, who are used to my granma making them, and since she doesn't make them any more... well, yeah, you know.

I want to send some to my grandparents, as well, although my mom said don't bother because my granma is nauseaus all the time and doesn't eat much, or enjoy it. But I'm going to wait and see how she's doing later in the year, and still keep it in mind anyway.

Plus, I want our pantry to have some. :D

Comments

[pennycuts.livejournal.com]

Re: therapy... Our generation is much more open to therapy. We don't hear the theme song from psycho when therapy is mentioned. I did notice my mom's generation still has this very taboo notion about it. I recently suggested my aunt have therapy to get over a divorce that happened 25 yrs ago, but my mother said shoudl couldnt possible suggest that to her. "Okayyyy then, just lookout when your sister decides to go balistic."

WHen its comes to canning, i made some puree veggie soup the last time i canned and burned myself so bad, i'm actually canning phobic now :)
I think you should send your granny some canned goods. (of course i dont know her situation) but i think she would be happy to see your continuing her canning tradition.

[freakykitten.livejournal.com]

I think she would be too. She's got brain cancer, and she just recently fell down and broke her nose/cheekbone/arm. I'd really like it if someone did it for me...

And ouch for burning yourself!!

that's a good point about our mother's generation and therapy, thanks.

[doodle.livejournal.com]

Don't listen to your mom...SOOOO negative. Make and send some to your grandparents anyway. They'll be thrilled that you made something so thoughtful. It could be just what gramma needs.

[freakykitten.livejournal.com]

I think it's really negative too! But she is a product of their upbringing, so sometimes I can't tell if that's what they would think or not. I think I'm going to send some anyway - it would make ME feel good if someone did that for me...

[blowtorch-betty.livejournal.com]

I went through a similar therapy thing with my mom and it went nowhere. We sat down and had a very serious but friendly conversation about it. I explained what therapy is about and for and how much it's helped me. She agrees that it helped me a load and that I'm a much changed person for the better but it's just not something she's willing to do.

I love my mother dearly but she is a very damaged person and tends to have highly disfunctional personal relationships. I've known this for years but only recently was I able to let go of a need I felt to help her. I can't, it's not my place. I tried but there's only so much you can do before it starts to affect your relationship. At least that's what I found.

It still pains me to see her repeating the same patters over and over again with people in her life, men specifically, but if she's not open to change or help then there really isn't anything I can do but continue to be supportive of her when things fall apart.

[freakykitten.livejournal.com]

if she's not open to change or help then there really isn't anything I can do but continue to be supportive of her when things fall apart

Very true.