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brightbluegirlAndrew worked, handyman-ing, all day yesterday, came by work and we biked home together. It was windy, I'd had a bad-ish day, he'd done physical work all day, so it was a tough ride home, but we made it.
We were going to have black bean burritos for dinner. But when I took the tortillas out of the fridge, they were moldy. And slimy. Ick.
So I made black bean open-faced sandwiches, instead.
We sat at the table, ate our sandwiches, looked out into the front yard and watched the wind whip the willow into a frenzy.
After dinner we decided to walk down to the co-op and get some food bar things. I like them for when I need something sweet, because they're high protein and low calorie. And I need every help I can get for the next little while, diet wise. Especially since I'm a sugar-junkie.
So we walked, in the burgeoning dusk, the wind ruffling our hair, enjoying the smell of lilacs and the beautiful view. A fire hydrant had been opened, and the smell of water in the air added to the perfection of the evening.
I was tired when we got back. We stretched to bad tv and I had a bath while reading William Gibson's "Idoru", we went to bed a little early, and I slept well. Had wierd dreams of my mother coming to visit again and belonging to some commune that required a $110 000 buy in (but you got a leather jacket AND a vote).
It sounds so boring, but I feel so content. This is real life. No drama, just living. I love it.
I love that Andrew is who he is.
Let me explain.
He's actively working for the good of the small community (us), by reaching out to the medium sized community (friends, family, and people I know) to do work that benefits them personally (handyman type stuff), for some return benefit towards us. In these cases, the return benefit happens to be money, instead of the ideal (services we need, material goods we need, etc), but he's not complaining that he is not living the anarchist ideal, and even better, he recognizes that in order to REACH the ideal, supporting things that are close to the ideal is the way to do it (that is, it's easier to move towards the ideal bit by bit, support something closer to the ideal, and that will open the door for something even CLOSER to the ideal, and so on...)
He even plans on offering his handyman services for free to the single mother that he's helping, once this group of things he's working on for her (that we're counting on the income from) are done.
He doesn't just spout rhetoric. He doesn't say "money is bad jobs are bad give me $20 bucks for booze" (or whatever). He actively does what what fits, as far as his belief system goes.
And handyman work is HARD. It's hard physical labour, it's things he hasn't done before that he has to figure out, and in some cases, it's entire days in the sun. And he does it ALL without complaint.
I somehow lucked into a life with an incredible human being. Someone that I get to spend time with every day. I am so lucky.
We were going to have black bean burritos for dinner. But when I took the tortillas out of the fridge, they were moldy. And slimy. Ick.
So I made black bean open-faced sandwiches, instead.
We sat at the table, ate our sandwiches, looked out into the front yard and watched the wind whip the willow into a frenzy.
After dinner we decided to walk down to the co-op and get some food bar things. I like them for when I need something sweet, because they're high protein and low calorie. And I need every help I can get for the next little while, diet wise. Especially since I'm a sugar-junkie.
So we walked, in the burgeoning dusk, the wind ruffling our hair, enjoying the smell of lilacs and the beautiful view. A fire hydrant had been opened, and the smell of water in the air added to the perfection of the evening.
I was tired when we got back. We stretched to bad tv and I had a bath while reading William Gibson's "Idoru", we went to bed a little early, and I slept well. Had wierd dreams of my mother coming to visit again and belonging to some commune that required a $110 000 buy in (but you got a leather jacket AND a vote).
It sounds so boring, but I feel so content. This is real life. No drama, just living. I love it.
I love that Andrew is who he is.
Let me explain.
He's actively working for the good of the small community (us), by reaching out to the medium sized community (friends, family, and people I know) to do work that benefits them personally (handyman type stuff), for some return benefit towards us. In these cases, the return benefit happens to be money, instead of the ideal (services we need, material goods we need, etc), but he's not complaining that he is not living the anarchist ideal, and even better, he recognizes that in order to REACH the ideal, supporting things that are close to the ideal is the way to do it (that is, it's easier to move towards the ideal bit by bit, support something closer to the ideal, and that will open the door for something even CLOSER to the ideal, and so on...)
He even plans on offering his handyman services for free to the single mother that he's helping, once this group of things he's working on for her (that we're counting on the income from) are done.
He doesn't just spout rhetoric. He doesn't say "money is bad jobs are bad give me $20 bucks for booze" (or whatever). He actively does what what fits, as far as his belief system goes.
And handyman work is HARD. It's hard physical labour, it's things he hasn't done before that he has to figure out, and in some cases, it's entire days in the sun. And he does it ALL without complaint.
I somehow lucked into a life with an incredible human being. Someone that I get to spend time with every day. I am so lucky.
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Date: 2003-04-18 08:54 am (UTC)Exactly! It is so nice to live a drama-free, just plain CONTENT life!
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Date: 2003-04-18 08:57 am (UTC)I can't say I necessarily understand the ideals towards which you are working, but you seem to indicate you are working towards something that means a great deal to the both of you. That also makes me happy! Good luck to you both. :)
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Date: 2003-04-18 09:35 am (UTC)I also believe in and aspire to parts of anarchism and communism as well... I'm just a jumble, I guess. I've picked and chosen a bunch of things that work for me.
I believe that you ARE following the principle of "right work", because you ARE helping people. When I was working at my last full time job, also in computers, the product was merely something that could be used somewhat as a toy - check your email on your phone! browse the web on your pda! and I found it very difficult to reconcile THAT with right work. It wasn't helping anyone do anything that felt worthwhile. So go you!
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Date: 2003-04-18 09:42 am (UTC)no subject
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Date: 2003-04-18 11:09 am (UTC)I liked what you said about liking Andrew because he is who he is. I think, above all, I would want that in a partner.
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