sara

[brightbluegirl]

Sara Polley on Children:

"You realize it's never a smart time to have kids. There's never a practical, rational time. At some point, you decide to take the leap, so I don't know if that'll be this year or next year or five years from now. I'm not going to wait for the perfect time, because I don't think the perfect time is going to come."

*sigh*

Am I really wrong to wait? Am I really that naive, that stupid? Am I WRONG?????

Comments

[malaka.livejournal.com]

shhh. just get married first, then think about this ;)

[dextra.livejournal.com]

stability, some savings, a large enough home, a committed long-term relationship (preferably legally binding), physical-emotional-spiritual-mental health in both parents... these are ideal conditions, but not necessary. they make child-rearing a lot easier to handle, though!
if you were to try and get deliberately pregnant today (okay, what with andrew being away that might be a challenge ), i'd think you might be a bit rash. if you were to have an abortion today, i'd think you were a bit rash, too.
i think you're a pretty together and strong individual with plenty of love and maternal skills to spare, and i'm certain that andrew would complement you. it's rare to find the perfect, ideal time to breed. i guess sooner or later you'll need to figure out specific long-term goals with regards to breeding (like my sister who said she wanted to be married by 30, with kids by 35, and who went out and accomplished said goals).
forget about family, friends, and societal expectations, and do what you think would be good for you, for your partner, and for your child(ren). producing another generation right after moving into a new city, starting a new job, with a partner who is travelling a lot... not ideal. not fatal either.
bah.
ymmv.

[freakykitten.livejournal.com]

Thanks, awesome lady.

Yeah, I won't be rushing into anything. I know I want to have a child, but I also know it isn't right to have it happen right now. Or even this year.

Andrew doesn't actually travel away from me that much, though. This is the second time we've been apart since we started dating. (And I'm kinda sucky about it, eh? Oh well, I'll survive)

About Ontario - I'm going to be in Toronto on Friday the 24th and Saturday the 25th. On Friday I'm sleeping in the morning (I'm taking an overnight flight), then getting some tattoo work done on my back piece, then my evening is mine own. I'd planned to stay in T.O. all day Saturday, retreating to St. Catharines to visit family in the evening, but now, with that career day thing, I still don't know what's happening for that day. I'm going to see what I can figure out, and I will of course get back to you.

Do you really think you would be able to come down? I'd hate to put that pressure on you, with $$ issues, and time issues, and family and everything. If you *can* make it, of course I'll be happy, though.

[dextra.livejournal.com]

ooh. that's jake's birthday weekend, and i'm already committed to do stuff with gen and the pathfinders. crappy. i'll certainly be thinking of you, and kicking myself knowing that you're so close by!

[freakykitten.livejournal.com]

aw shucks. I wish I had more time to spend... like, 2 weeks or so, so I could go up the pharm and see you.

You know what I would really like? Me and you time. Just us, doing girl things for a day (or longer). That would kick.

Ah well, I can dream.

I totally understand it being a bad weekend. I hope Jake's birthday goes wonderfully!