don't babysit me!
Oct. 15th, 2003 11:46 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
brightbluegirlI'm not a child, thank-you-very-much. My mother does not treat me like one, and my team leads should not treat me like one. And yes, it's both team leads. I have no patience for this.
It's the little things. The way they say things, the way they make sure to tell us EVERYTHING over and over and over again, including don't forget this meeting or put in your status report or whatever. It's horrible.
Andrew and I are going to talk a bit more tonight about what we can do in our personal lives to make this less bad for me. I need some more changes NOW. The first thing I thought of is that we bite the bullet and buy me a sewing machine now, and put some money aside for fabrics and patterns and maybe a good book on quilting. That would be one thing. But would it be the right thing? I don't know.
Moving to the Burnaby office will be good as well, because I'll be that much closer to home. I'll get to work earlier, and get home earlier. Being home at 5:15 instead of 6:15 will improve my living.
I need a way to distance myself from my work, to not feel that it's so important. Andrew starts work on the 20th. If I have a rich life outside of work (which I admit, I don't have yet), then I might be able to not care so much about the work except for the fact that it's a job. Then maybe I'll be able to say yes to a new contract, and maybe even negotiate for a higher wage. But then again, maybe I'll look elsewhere as well. It can't hurt to look around.
Also, of course, having Andrew back has increased my happiness as well. :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D
Waiting the last hour was almost unbearable. I missed my bhunny SO MUCH. He came out with a cold and a beard, and stinky from the day's worth of flights, but he was my bhunny and I didn't care.
I'm so glad he's back. We slept holding hands. That's better than anything.
I shouldn't care so much about how these people treat me. It's not like they treat other people differently. It's the way they treat everyone. And they don't mistreat us, like Andrew and I have been mistreated by other employers, or worse, like child labour or slave labour. It's not personal. It's just that I'm so much better than what they act like they think I am. And then, of course, why should I Care at all what they think of me, or how they act towards me? I mean, as far as this goes. I need this money, yes. Our plan to pay off debt is very aggressive, and has us in a very good place after one year (including a trip to Cuba for Andrew's birthday this March!) Is it worth it? I'm pretty sure it is.
It would definitely be worth it if the aforementioned issues were non-existant. Are these petty issues so big as to make it worth leaving or finding something else?
Probably not.
As far as the technical community goes, I have never worked in a place that feels it necessary to babysit it's employees like this before. I've been very lucky, and very spoiled. I just have to learn how to deal with this, in a way I can be still be happy with myself.
I'm so glad my Andrew is home!
It's the little things. The way they say things, the way they make sure to tell us EVERYTHING over and over and over again, including don't forget this meeting or put in your status report or whatever. It's horrible.
Andrew and I are going to talk a bit more tonight about what we can do in our personal lives to make this less bad for me. I need some more changes NOW. The first thing I thought of is that we bite the bullet and buy me a sewing machine now, and put some money aside for fabrics and patterns and maybe a good book on quilting. That would be one thing. But would it be the right thing? I don't know.
Moving to the Burnaby office will be good as well, because I'll be that much closer to home. I'll get to work earlier, and get home earlier. Being home at 5:15 instead of 6:15 will improve my living.
I need a way to distance myself from my work, to not feel that it's so important. Andrew starts work on the 20th. If I have a rich life outside of work (which I admit, I don't have yet), then I might be able to not care so much about the work except for the fact that it's a job. Then maybe I'll be able to say yes to a new contract, and maybe even negotiate for a higher wage. But then again, maybe I'll look elsewhere as well. It can't hurt to look around.
Also, of course, having Andrew back has increased my happiness as well. :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D
Waiting the last hour was almost unbearable. I missed my bhunny SO MUCH. He came out with a cold and a beard, and stinky from the day's worth of flights, but he was my bhunny and I didn't care.
I'm so glad he's back. We slept holding hands. That's better than anything.
I shouldn't care so much about how these people treat me. It's not like they treat other people differently. It's the way they treat everyone. And they don't mistreat us, like Andrew and I have been mistreated by other employers, or worse, like child labour or slave labour. It's not personal. It's just that I'm so much better than what they act like they think I am. And then, of course, why should I Care at all what they think of me, or how they act towards me? I mean, as far as this goes. I need this money, yes. Our plan to pay off debt is very aggressive, and has us in a very good place after one year (including a trip to Cuba for Andrew's birthday this March!) Is it worth it? I'm pretty sure it is.
It would definitely be worth it if the aforementioned issues were non-existant. Are these petty issues so big as to make it worth leaving or finding something else?
Probably not.
As far as the technical community goes, I have never worked in a place that feels it necessary to babysit it's employees like this before. I've been very lucky, and very spoiled. I just have to learn how to deal with this, in a way I can be still be happy with myself.
I'm so glad my Andrew is home!
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Date: 2003-10-15 12:30 pm (UTC)I'm glad Andrew is home. How did everything go? I'll have to call and get a full report. I owe you a phone call AND an email, don't I?
And, on buying a sewing machine, I don't recommend getting a used one because they're usually pretty beat up. Here in the states I think you can get a cheap one (of good quality) for about $100. Not sure how it goes in Canada.
Sewing can be very therapeutic. I've also been thinking about learning to knit.
-Shannon
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Date: 2003-10-15 12:35 pm (UTC)Either way, I want details. Cuba FASCINATES me.
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Date: 2003-10-15 01:10 pm (UTC)Of COURSE there will be details! Knowing me, probably too much detail. But yes, I will inform.
Andrew will be turning 22. Heh. My cute young boy.
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Date: 2003-10-16 09:37 am (UTC)Cuba -- makes me think of all that awesome music and food and passion. I know its all stereotypes, but, damn!
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Date: 2003-10-15 01:25 pm (UTC)Other than that, it does always take a while to establish an independent life in a new place, so most likely things will improve with time.
Cuba should be interesting - my aunt & uncle went to Cuba a few years ago, and they said it was enjoyable but creepy. Fidel gave a big speech, and the government sent out busses to bring everyone (literally, everyone) to see him - and then made them walk home, in many cases, thirty or forty miles. Things like that.
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Date: 2003-10-15 04:14 pm (UTC)