Marvin Gaye said it best...
Oct. 23rd, 2003 05:10 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
brightbluegirlSo let me tell you something that peeves me.
Lately, practically everyone has been giving me advice. Unasked.
So why is that, I wonder? Do we all give each other unasked for advice? Is that part of our society? Is it that I give people too much advice (although when I do, usually it's because they asked for suggestions/help/therapy/commiseration/whatever)? Or is it because I give out this aura of "tell me what to do?"
Because I really didn't think I gave out an aura of "Tell me what to do". I mean really. Last time I checked, I appeared to be a confident woman who knew what she was doing, and didn't ask for help very often. Even when I was walking into a maelstrom, or dating the EXACT WRONG person, or whatever.
And I don't react well to advice either.
It's people from all around me, it seems. My parents, my close friends, my coworkers. It makes me want to shout at them.
Or maybe it's just that I have a bad attitude? I deal so poorly with unasked advice. Particularly when the advice, by it's very nature, shows that the person giving the advice hasn't been listening to me enough to actually understand the issue as it stands. Or when the advice they're giving shows that they don't know ME, because they're giving advice that I have given THEM, or that I obviously do in my day-to-day life.
What is it, lately?
Or is it me in another way? Am I communicating myself less well? Am I leaving myself open to all of these misscommunications and misunderstandings of my situations and my person, by being lazy in getting across my needs and wants?
I really don't know.
All I know is that lately, I am peeved not only by that, but by the fact that people don't seem to pay attention to me as much any more, I feel interrupted and ignored. It's like I'm less HERE than I was a year ago.
What's going on?
Lately, practically everyone has been giving me advice. Unasked.
So why is that, I wonder? Do we all give each other unasked for advice? Is that part of our society? Is it that I give people too much advice (although when I do, usually it's because they asked for suggestions/help/therapy/commiseration/whatever)? Or is it because I give out this aura of "tell me what to do?"
Because I really didn't think I gave out an aura of "Tell me what to do". I mean really. Last time I checked, I appeared to be a confident woman who knew what she was doing, and didn't ask for help very often. Even when I was walking into a maelstrom, or dating the EXACT WRONG person, or whatever.
And I don't react well to advice either.
It's people from all around me, it seems. My parents, my close friends, my coworkers. It makes me want to shout at them.
Or maybe it's just that I have a bad attitude? I deal so poorly with unasked advice. Particularly when the advice, by it's very nature, shows that the person giving the advice hasn't been listening to me enough to actually understand the issue as it stands. Or when the advice they're giving shows that they don't know ME, because they're giving advice that I have given THEM, or that I obviously do in my day-to-day life.
What is it, lately?
Or is it me in another way? Am I communicating myself less well? Am I leaving myself open to all of these misscommunications and misunderstandings of my situations and my person, by being lazy in getting across my needs and wants?
I really don't know.
All I know is that lately, I am peeved not only by that, but by the fact that people don't seem to pay attention to me as much any more, I feel interrupted and ignored. It's like I'm less HERE than I was a year ago.
What's going on?
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